Life == Thinking!

Boom... goes a thought - Just like cosmic rays... Boom.. it goes off again as a falling meteor...

From the time I realize, I exist and Im done wid my sleep..., until I hit back to my bed... I have soo many thoughts... few hitting, few of them just flowing... few of them exciting my brain cells! - n few of them really pushing up my confidence levels... n there are really a few, which bogs me down! for no reason... :( well, I tend to over come that, by another positive thought though' :)

As, I wake up from the bed.. in d morning...am left with silence around, but wid the sound of my own thoughts! I keep thinking...without noticing, amma's calling for me from the kitchen, but I keep mum.. absolutely dissolved in my own thoughts...!

Analyzing my dreams in my own ways n pace - Y was there nothing  better which could have happened than wat really happened in d dream... was it a dream or was it a reality! - did tat happen sometime back? or woul it be in near future?!?! I keep thinking....

I think... about my parents, my brother, the family in which I was born... my grandparents, my relatives,- who chose it for me! how did it all happen (Im happy about it tho' :) my friends - how did I choose them, what made me meet them! n my dear hubby - how did this best thing happen to me! ( we both have always felt, we were destined to each other :)

Sometimes through the window, I peep out - watching the rain... the light drizzles...

I keep thinking... Who created all these.. clouds, water, air... (of course there is lot of chemistry involved in evolution)... what made it to exist? was it just like that.. or was there any intent - who created it... "God" ?? where was he... was he in the form of humans... or was he in the form of an alien... coz he is the master of d universe... he would definitely not be like us (humans :) - I donno... or is he formless??? Where is his abode? amidst the black holes?? or in the centre of the galaxies...

If he is there... what would he be doing now? how did he decide upon the plan of making so many beautiful things, the colours, nature, leaves, mountain... snow! (Although thinking so may be illogical - but thoughts still do arise).

Why are there people who suffer without food, shelter, why there is so much of corruption... Why do ppl slaughter animals in d name of God? was there God's interference in all these??? Or is he just watching our wicked n cruel play from there...

Was our Life decided by him?? Or do, we get full ownership to lead our Life??

Life seemed to different for me at different stages of life, - when I was a kid... when I was in school, when i was in college... n Now...

The Fact is, It was the same before... Its the same now... will be the same in future, Its how I perceive it... my perception: co-relation of Painting with Life..

U wanna make it gud? go do it! - Is what I have always thought... Its as simple as - U want ur painting to be beautiful, choose appropriate colors, mix them in d right proportions - to get a brite hue n then paint some gud strokes, to give a definite shape n look... of what u have thought in d mind's eye! well within the boundry of the canvas... n there it goes.. all It needs is patience, determination (that u want ur painting to be d best), n finally the satisfaction n the happiness of using the best n bringing out the best!
Same is wid Life - just take in the good thoughts... try to make it in real, I have always tried to bring my dreams into reality.. Dream Big , Think Big…

I love my Life!  Whatsoever :) I will always respect the place where I am, the Life Im leading... coz it has so much Light, Love, Peace and energy!

I wanna Embrace my Life... wanna enjoy every ounce of my Life! coz Its just one Life.. I never know if at all, there is another Life... But wanna  make this one Big n beautiful!

N enjoy it to d fullest :) I don wanna miss even a bit of it :)

And when I am old n grey ..n when I look back into the saturation of Life... I never wanna feel... that I have left some stones unturned!

Wedding Invitation!

OOw! Watta Dream...

I was in a brown leather jacket, with a sunglass on, driving on 160 km/hr on my lamborghini... my god... what a dusty Highway it was... n suddenly applied the breaksss..... to c my brother waving at me, got down and asked him why he was there n wat he was really doin there in that airy, deserted, dusty highway!... he said he wanted a pencil ... :) to do his assignment....

I said okie and handed him a "Nataraja" pencil from my pocket... and walked behind him to c where exactly he was doing his assignment... (had left the car "LAMBHORGINI" in the middle of the highway, gosh!) he took me a mile by walk n there I saw a hut with windows - where the panes were made out of gunny ropes...huts without doors, but just a curtain... a typical ancient village atmosphere... where ppl were in kind of a different attire - which made me feel I was in "Dwaparayuga" lol....

My brother entered the hut without even inviting me, started to do his homework... n I kept seeing around wid confusion as where exactly I was.There was a huge sand dune besides the hut...

I walked around the hut ...n saw two men talking to each other... with a crown on their head, probably gold :)... n vajra kavach on their chest...at first they looked like ppl from a drama troop to me, but then I realised they werent them... "they were GODS from the heavens" whispered a voice in my ears... there was no one next to me.. but I believed it, thinking it to be akashvani... lol :) and went close to them, they went on talking n talking n talking n talking as though there was no one standing besides them Or was that, they couldnt see me?! I donno... But I never understood wat they were talking...

Finally, I had nothing to do there... So, I called out my brother... he came out of the hut... wid the "Nataraja" pencil in his hand! I took it from him n said, "look, use this n u would reach heights like this".... I just held the pencil and it grew so big... and I sat on it and started to fly... :) my god I donno, there wasnt any spells on it... but it just took off... zooop! I went on flying..flying..flying... Untill I saw huge multistoried building probably a complex.. a mall I donno,...n they were so tall.

I wanted to reach the top of that huge building n wid out any spells, my "Nataraja" pencil took me as a fighter jet takes off... wid a much higher speed, than before.. I felt it as a roller coaster's ascent...I was thrilled n excited to the core!, never had felt d air hitting me soo much before.... n once the pencil took me to the top, it never landed me, not even stopped for a second! It just took off again - as roller-coaster's descent...... This was the scariest part... I was still on the pencil going down n down n down n down.... as though into a bottom-less well.... I was still goin down... N suddenly felt the jerk n a kind of mild shock to my legs, as one feels just before falling or having a thud... N there I go, out of my dreams! :) n thought lucky me "Im still Alive" n "thank God, it was just a dream"... Smiled at myself, n went back to gud nite sleep :)

Happy New Year - 2010

Year's end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us...

Wish u All a Very happy n a colorful year ahd! :)

Learn to Say NO!

It was a long time since I had a break from office, so thought why not attend a soft skill program :)

to break the monotony! and i just bottled out and enrolled myself for a training on "Assertive skills".

The program was in South Bangalore, in one of the IBM locations... the training was scheduled from9:00am to 6:00pm (initially one would feel... wat a day to sleep :) but then it was one of the best programs I have attended.

As usual I was late to the session by 20mins.. due to the traffic, choking the roads in Bangalore.

After 3-4 mins I could figure out in which meeting hall the program was happening, Knocked the door, slightly opened it to peep in my facilitator for the day... He immediately sprang up the seat! and said, "welcome young Lady... Good mng", I smiled and wished him back and occupied a seat in the front row... I must say, the facilitator was so charismatic in his voice and Body Language... His style was unmatchable, though he was in his fifties... he had the charm and his tone gave us an assurance that we would not feel bored or go to sleep during the entire stretch! (which made me happy :)

The class began... all of us had a gud time enacting few role plays! I learnt a lot during the

session... there were experiences shared by different ppl out there, one said how his TL harassed him, because he was a fresher he could not say a word back...(poor guy I thought) and the other said, talking back or denying to accept extra loads @ work was a signal of escapism. This reminded me of my experience with my new manager, where she wanted me to work on a weekend! Rather than accepting it straight away.. I said about my commitment for the weekend. It was an intent to show her that in spite of me having my personal stuff, I would come to office... and it was a clear cut signal that, boss u cant take me for granted!

And the discussions went on and forth... with various examples and advantages of being Assertive, be it the personal life/relationships or Professional life/relationships.

There are ppl of three kinds, some - Passive, some - aggressive... Let me tell u something, before saying about ppl who are Assertive.

Ppl can either be Passive or Aggressive by nature, its only either of these two comes by birth. Some are passive because their parents would have passed it on to them and so is the same wid aggressive ppl... But wat makes ppl Assertive is thru Learning! There could be various reasons for a person to be passive, It could be passed on from their parents or could be self developed, due to lack of freedom, lack of confidence, basically ignorant of things, lack of knowledge or it could be even that they foresee some risk in voicing out their opinion! (By voicing out this thought as well, would remove the fear out of u)

Drawback of being Passive: U would loose the battle! U may never be able to do justice to ur values, ur principles, because u always allow others to override... U would start feeling the guilt that u r not getting what u want! U get scared the next time u try to voice out... if u can overcome well n good!

But why do u wann someone else hurt ur beliefs! Ur Aspirations cant be washed out... who would ever like to live dat way!?! Wen u r not allowed to be the way u wanna be!

Drawback of being Aggressive: certainly, if things go beyond threshold even the Passive ones would erupt out and become aggressive... and being aggressive is no good either! U would just end up loosing ur cool and breaking of the relationships! and u would carry that pain forever in hearts! which is not the way we really want our lives to be!

when there are crucial conversations between ppl, stakes are high, emotions run strong! because options vary...People generally choose to at least try to handle this sort of situation as well as they

possibly can. Most times, however, they don't do very well at all, for several reasons.

Physiologically, humans are designed to handle stressful situations with fists and

feet (and the related hormones and physical reactions), not intelligence and

attentiveness. " Most often these sorts of situations come up spontaneously and out

of nowhere, and many people cannot come up with more than a knee-jerk response

to them."

Being aggressive to ppl's reaction on the other side, makes u loose d battle! because u wd not even bother to care for other's feelings, this gives a notion to ur opponent that u dont have consideration, n its very natural for them to deny u! because u have hurt their ego n beliefs... here again there is no win-win situation. U wd rather hurt urself n the other person...

But being Assertive creates a wonderful situation to u, as well for others! u would openly n honestly stand n say "NO" I cant be doing that or I cant be accepting that because it hurts my beliefs, principles and the very me! U dont bash my boundary n I dont invade urs!

Then ppl get the signal from u that they cant be bulling over u! n u get wat u want at the end of the day! Be urself... and dont carry the guilt thru out ur life of not living the life the way u wanted!

This actually creates a win-win situation, where u would not loose anything/anyone but u would win them as well get wat u want! U have the right of freedom! U have the right to make ur own choices in Life and no one..."No One" should be questioning n they should not! but Accept the way U are... U respect other's principles and they respect urs! and wen they cross the guard lines, plz say them... U cant be accepting for all they say!

And the result of this is: U would live a HAPPY n a HEALTHY life! :)

Happy Time ahd!!!

Courage is an absolute requisite, with out which other virtues loose their meaning… Courage is the first of human qualities because it guarantees all others!

We all know (at least most of us!!) what is right and what is wrong! but a few fail to act decisively because they lack the COURAGE their values require. Its as good as being a LOOSER, when we lack courage to do something, (which could have otherwise made us a WINNER) and no one wants to loose… I remember a day when my dad said this to me when I was in standard 2… “When you are right, do not fear for anyone or anything… They cant do anything to U, at the most they could KILL you” … I was shocked to hear the word “KILL” … I asked him, “Dad, If I’m Killed…. What is the use of me being scared or being Courageous!” He then said, “child…Don’t worry, even DEATH will fear to come near Courage!” I would remember it for my life… Nothing or no one can take anything from us! Fear not to do right things… and dont do things which are not right! BE TRUE to yourself…

Cowards die many a times before their death! Just come out of shackles, cross the barrier… remove all the fears from heart! Just DO IT… YOU can…All of us can…what sets courageous people apart from cowards is fortitude. Having the will to go out there and face those difficulties and diffuse them with passion and strength. It needs courage to be a HERO, to be a LEADER - to reach the top and to stay there ( apart from being righteous)!!!

We all face so many difficulties in Life, many hurdles… we all under go a rough time, but never should we shun away… never should we feel defeated… We got to muster all the courage, get up and move on towards success… We are not defeated when we fall down..but its when we refuse to get up.. when we lack courage to accept challenges!

Winners Never Cheat n Cheaters Never Win!

"The Rationale that you have to cheat to stay competitive is a powerful lure. Moral bankruptcy is the inevitable conclusion" - Jon M. Huntsman

"Everyone does it." Everyone cheats. Cuts corners. Tells lies. Maybe it was different once. Not anymore. If you want to succeed nowadays. You have to make compromises. Right?

WRONG. You can succeed at the highest levels, without sacrificing the principles that make life worth living.

What's needed is a booster shot of commonly held moral principles from the playground of our youth. We all know the drill: be fair, don't CHEAT, play nicely, share and share alike, tell the truth. Although these childhood prescriptions may appear to have been forgotten in the fog of competition, I believe it is more a matter of values being expediently ignored. Whatever the case, it is time for us to get into ethical shape with full-scale behavioural workout.

Success comes to those who possess skill, courage, integrity, decency and generosity. Men and women who maintain their universally shared values tend to achieve their goals, know happiness in home and work and find greater purpose in their lives than simply accumulating wealth.

"Nice guys really can and do finish first in Life"